Starting conversations

Looking back at the last few weeks at the content I’ve uploaded, a lot has focused on personal development.

I thought long and hard about today’s chosen topic and how to approach it, and I want to strip things back and how you all realise that simple actions are all that’s needed to start a conversation.

I know I come across as confident online; the same in person as well, but it hasn’t always been the case. Whether I’m now regularly creating new connections, collaborating with more people or pitching my JRTV100 project to charities, it’s all come in time.

A lot of people believe blogging can develop your confidence. Don’t get me wrong it does, but remember yesterday’s post about ‘creating your own niche’? I have the same opinion in terms of confidence and starting conversations.

It doesn’t matter who you are, starting a new conversation can sometimes be tricky. You can believe that the person won’t be interested in knowing what you have to say or whether that conversation will lead to more, but the one thing I’ve learned is your self-belief rubs off on others.

If you know what you want, you’ll get a reaction. A half-hearted conversation starter, and you’re most likely going to be blanked.

It’s reality. Not everyone will get along and not everyone will want to talk to you. You can’t force it to happen. Remember when we were really young and the first year you had in school? The fact you’d walk into school and not everyone will like you, but you’d still try and talk to them?

I think the same goes for social media. We want to start conversations, not only to grow our confidence, but also to develop the skills needed to engage others in our blog and here are a few tips to help you get started;

Be brave

Sounds obvious, right? Well it’s true! Unless you actually contact someone, how will a conversation start? They might be nervous too and might shy away from going first.

Think about the future

When I connect with someone new, I think about how that person fits into my blog’s future. Are they someone you really want part of your community? Possibly interested in collaborating with them? Maybe starting the conversation now is a good way to build a relationship with them.

Mutual contacts

Research who you both know and if you’re worried about talking to someone new, ask the mutual contact to introduce you. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help.

Be yourself

Never try to be someone else to connect with someone. The right people will connect with you and will see you for how awesome you are.

Find out a fact about them

Finding out what you have in common is a great starting point? Think of it like a dating app. If you were to message someone, what would you look for on their profile?

Don’t think with a business head

A bit of a different outlook to point 2, but remember that people want to see your genuinely interested in getting to  know them. Don’t think about how connecting with them will help you to grow, otherwise their first impressions might not be the greatest.

Twitter chats

My favourite way of connecting with new people. Twitter chats are a great way to make someone aware of your intention to connect with them.

I know it’s a random number, but here’s 7 tips to help you make the move and to start a conversation. Any more ideas? Make sure you leave them below…


One thought on “Starting conversations

  1. This is such a great post! I do this quite often. I’ve met some amazing and fun people just by replying to a tweet or reading a new blog. 😁


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